Warning: Senti post. Haha. With my birthday just a few days away, I figured I needed to blog about something more raw and personal today. How do you overcome unfortunate situations? The year has not ended yet but I’ve already experienced a series of ups and downs. Frankly, I’m surprised I’m still sane. If I were probably more weak-willed, I would have easily gone mad. But no, this girl right here has endured much more than you can imagine–and that’s not an exaggeration.
Like most people, I get really terrible days, would lock myself in my apartment and think about why I’m experiencing such and what I could have done to prevent them from happening and what I can still do for them not to reoccur. When I was younger, however, I would get pretty self-destructive, but only for a while. I learned later on that it’s not a good way of dealing with problems. If we always try to escape every time we’re facing a huge dilemma, it will never stop. In the end, it will only create more problems.
The past months were very emotionally exhausting, but one day, being the amazing partner that he is, my boyfriend told me the most wonderful thing. I am far from perfect but he said my best trait is I learn from my mistakes. When I was a kid, my mother would always remind me and my siblings the importance of chances, so I suppose I got that trait from her. Yes, I would often mope for a day or three, but I would certainly bounce back better and wiser. And I guess it’s because I give myself time to reflect. When we make mistakes, we are only given very few chances, if we’re lucky, of making things right so it’s important not to waste them.
A lot of us can be quite reactive too when stressed and angry. While I do understand that it’s a way of “getting it all out there”, sometimes they cause more harm than good. You see, when emotions are high, our judgment is clouded by unpleasant things it’s impossible to be rational. So when I’m in that situation, I would clear my mind first, ask for a time out before saying or doing anything.
Even though I had numerous challenges this year I can say that I’ve successfully overcome them. Right now things seem to be going very well again for me. But you know, life never fails to find a way to shake us once in a while. But when you have a calm, positive disposition, you will always find a way to move forward. Keep in mind also that there are people who love us unconditionally, willing to listen and help. I’m honestly grateful for being surrounded by my wonderful family and friends. Although I usually keep my problems to myself, these people are always ready to cheer me up and support me when I need it. My boyfriend has unfailingly been my constant source of strength. This person is the only guy who took the time to really get to know me despite all the negativity surrounding us and I really appreciate that. The last time we were together was almost a year and a half ago (boy, time does fly) but we make sure to be ‘present’ for each other. I feel very lucky to be loved and understood by him. I honestly can’t wait to be with him again, hopefully before the year closes.
My relationship with Chad and my family and friends are perhaps the only things that are consistently positive in my life. And that’s okay. I think, as long as we have love and positivity in our hearts, things will always work out. 🙂
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