When my father passed away due to illness ten years ago, I thought life had no meaning anymore. Losing the strongest man you know at a very delicate age is devastating. I had no male figure to look up to, except my brother who was only a teenager as well; I had no dad to ask for advice during the most difficult times. I grieved for a year, and eventually realized that I had to continue living. And I did.


My life became more funereal afterwards to the point that I became immune to all frustrations, which led to poor decisions. I experienced quite a series of misfortunes that I thought bad luck was my last name.

But someone told me:

“One of the most self-destructive tendencies we have as humans is not allowing ourselves to be happy. This is because there is another voice in our head, the adversarial force that rushes in the moment we achieve any sense of true joy, and whispers in our thoughts all the reasons why we need to be afraid, upset, or stressed.

Our job is to consciously choose a sense of inner peace over that voice of negativity.

A life of happiness lies in your own hands, and more importantly in your own mind. It’s just waiting for you to choose it.”


Sometimes we have to confront our fears and pain to see some light, and when I did that, everything turned nicer. I became more wise and more at peace with myself and the world. I accepted that it’s possible for me to be happy.

And you will be too, dear one. Whatever is holding you down right now will not be there forever. It will loosen its grip sooner or later, but always remember to stay strong so it won’t drag you down with it. Life is too wonderful to waste. 🙂


Studded top from F-STOP | Skater skirt from SUBCULT | Forever 21 booties | ULINX magnetic jewelry

I wore this look during the Chicken Charlie press launch. Chicken Charlie is a proudly Pinoy chicken restaurant which will celebrate its 3rd anniversary tomorrow! I’ll be posting the photos really soon and will be announcing a cool treat for you guys, so watch out! 😀


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