Mad Love

My friends and officemates often ask me: Do I ever feel sad? And I would answer with a resounding yes, but I try not to dwell on it. I always tell myself that no one else is responsible for my emotions but me. I can tell the whole world about my feelings but no other person can resolve it but me. While growing up, I have also discovered that negative emotions can be contagious. I want to be that person who’s a constant source of positive, happy energy. Each of us has our own struggles, and I don’t want to be that friend who always brings bad news. I do not want to inconvenience anyone by listening to rants and problems that (probably) do not concern them.

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My mom has taught me and my siblings to be independent. When we were kids, she would often talk to us about taking responsibility. As a child, I did not understand it then. I thought my mom was being too serious and ‘baduy’ by having those talks. I didn’t realize how much those talks have permeated my daily existence until today. Scoldings from parents do have a purpose after all. Sometimes I’d wonder if I can become an effective parent like my mother, especially now that I’m nearing that stage. 🙂

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A few weeks ago, Chad and I got engaged. YES WE’RE ENGAGED!!! 😀 😀 😀

I choose you @gypsealegs ????????

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Although having kids is not one of our current priorities, just thinking about it can be overwhelming. Seeing a little Chad and Daphne playing some day would be great, but we still have a lot of things to work on as a couple. Chad and I have had many talks about this in the past, even before announcing our official engagement, and I’m glad to have a partner who possesses the same line of thinking as I do.

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Many people think that when you get married, you can no longer have time for your own dreams. I disagree. That may be true for couples with kids but not for married couples. Chad and I still have lots of things to fulfill. More than a year ago we collaborated for several creative projects and realized how compatible we are, not just as boyfriend-girlfriend but as partners. We accomplish so much when we’re together and manage to weed through the challenges of long-distance relationship—these and many other things convince me that Chad and I will make it.

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Not that I need any convincing. I’ve loved Chad since meeting him more than a decade ago and nothing will ever dissuade me from marrying him. When he left for the States when I was in college, I totally gave up hope that I’d still see him. But he came back in 2011–and it was the right time. I’m not one to believe in ‘The One’ (oh boy, here we go), but that moment, our first conversation after so many years, I knew then he’s the person I’d marry. He’s my ideal man and my best friend, and it makes me so happy that I will be spending the rest of my life with this wonderful being. 🙂

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Top from SM GTW | Cotton On Trousers | Thrifted Parisian Sandals | MANGO Quilted Bag | Casio Watch
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Just thinking about Chad and our future makes all my worries go away. My officemates have remarked about my blooming aura since becoming engaged and I have to say it’s all because of the love I constantly receive from Chad, my family, and friends.

When you focus on how much you are loved instead of how unfortunate you are, it will show. It’s all about perspective. 🙂

Photos by Chad Verzosa <3

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Finish Line

I’m back in Naga City to witness my brother’s graduation at Ateneo de Naga University. Everyone who knew us intimately knows why this is such a momentous occasion for our family. Despite his shortcomings (because honestly, who doesn’t have one?), my brother is the most selfless person I know; he sacrificed a lot for our family to survive–and I respect him for that. I wouldn’t be where I am today if not for his sacrifices.

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I could not recall how many times I felt depressed when things don’t go according to plan. I have this 10-year plan I drafted after finishing college–a list of things I should accomplish before I turn 30. 5 years have passed and I’ve only done about 20% of that list. Before I would often feel disappointed at myself for not being able to follow ‘the plan’, and it didn’t do me any good.

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Slowly I began to accept that life is too uncertain, it’s impossible for us to control everything. One person told me I should be thankful that at least I know what I want in life and that I’ve done something worthwhile with it. After hearing those words, I began to relax and take things less seriously and welcome spontaneity.

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If my brother was able to face life despite the fate he experienced, why should a simple mishap like derailed plans stop me from living?

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EZRA dress from Zalora | MANGO quilted bag | TWINKY heels |  SM Department Store sunnies

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These photos were taken at Ateneo, my alma mater. I remember how happy I was when I marched through the four pillars and received my hard-earned diploma. Unlike many others, I wasn’t afraid of what lay ahead. I was eager to start working on my future. There was no ounce of fear, just hope.

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My mom taught us not to feel bitter towards life during difficult times, instead be grateful for they teach us how to be brave and strong. Of course, mothers know best. 🙂

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Dress Up Sunday

I’ve been really stressed with school and work lately. So when the opportunity to travel presented itself last week, I grabbed it and packed my bags without much thought. I missed home, so much that I didn’t mind spending the weekend only there (usually when I visit, I clear my schedule for a week). Despite the short amount of time I spent in Naga, I was happy. Coincidentally it was my little sister Denice‘s birthday too and I never wanted to miss it for the world.

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I think we’re the closest in the family. When we were kids people actually thought we’re twins. But of course, like any other siblings, we’ve had our own share of squabbles–but that only made us closer. Until today we still borrow each other’s clothes, laugh at silly things, gossip, and spoil each other. I always thought of her as a fragile being, so I didn’t like seeing her hurt or sick–I still don’t, but I’m confident she can now handle every obstacle thrown her way. I can’t believe she’s grown to be a tough–and very stylish–young lady who is great at what she does. She also likes cameras so when I’m home she takes my pictures for my blog. 😉

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We took these photos at the iconic Basilica Pavilion located within Basilica Minore, home of the famous Our Lady of Penafrancia–Bicol region’s patroness. I’ve taken so many pictures for this blog but I only have very few from my hometown so this time I made sure I was able to take some before the Sunday mass began.

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Hence the people at the background. 😛

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Before we got there though, my sister was laughing at me because I looked too formal for church. Lol I’ve always been the most maarte in the family so they’re kinda used to me being so dressed up all the time. I was actually going to wear heels but I didn’t want to be teased again so I opted to wear my chic pointed flats instead just to balance things out.

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Didn’t wear much jewelry too because the collar already has gold sequins. Adding more accessories is overkill. And I’m not big fan of jewelry too, except for these gold earrings my dear grandma gave me for my college graduation years ago. 🙂

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EZRA dress | Mendrez flats | MANGO quilted shoulder bag

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Shop Branded Apparel for Less

Who doesn’t love branded clothes? They are chic and trendy, but unfortunately come with a high price tag. Brands like Forever 21, Zara, Topshop, and Mango are just some of the many in demand high-street brands in the country. However, most of their items cost a thousand pesos and above, an amount that only the upper middle class and rich people can afford. Fortunately for people like me who are always on a tight budget, there are online stores that offer authentic apparel for half the original price or less—one of them is The Overruns Store.430012_278286178910886_2105158440_n

I found out about The Overruns Store four months ago on Facebook. I’ve always wondered before where all the unsold items from boutiques go. Forever 21, Zara, and the likes may be big brands but I know not all manufactured items get sold out. Through research, I discovered that these unsold items, called excess overruns or stock lots, go to warehouses and are being sold at a very low price, sometimes at 90% less than the original price. Resellers would then buy these excess overruns and export them to interested buyers in other countries. People would often call them as export overruns as well. The Overruns Store is one of the most trusted sellers of export overruns in the Philippines, with more than 20 thousand followers on Facebook and almost 50 thousand followers on Instagram. It’s where I also got most of the high-street clothes I wore on some of my previous blog posts.

I love Forever 21 and The Overruns Store provides the prettiest Forever 21 pieces, even though they were originally released two or three seasons ago. I haven’t met the seller personally yet, but I think she’s young and knows what teens and young adults want. I mean, there are literally millions of excess overruns and those include items for mature women. If the seller doesn’t have a vision of what her customers need, chances are she’ll just sell whatever’s available. But the TOS owner is not like that. 🙂

TOS stocks run out quickly because thousands of girls eagerly await for every post of new items from the store. You will have to be very patient when waiting for confirmation of your order. Other than that, you don’t have to worry about anything else. The items are in very good condition, usually priced beginning Php 250 and above. That’s a great steal! For a thousand bucks, you can get at least four branded apparels. Not bad right?

Vintage

I like looking at old photographs, especially my parents’. They remind me so much of how innocent and unperturbed the times were back then. Sometimes I feel like many of us today are constantly chasing the wrong things. In the past, people’s ways of living are just simple and uncomplicated, unlike now.

These photos were taken using a Canon ae-1 film camera. My boyfriend is so much more comfortable using film cameras than the digital ones. These photos can already tell you why. I tried shooting some things using his camera too (which I will share really soon), and I immediately understood why he loves using it to take pictures.

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