Island Girl

Recently I’ve been really busy juggling my time among work, school, and blogger duties, I barely have any time for myself. Other than food, my usual destressors are sleep, quality time with loved ones, and traveling. Would you believe that I actually have to schedule all of them just to get that much-needed break? Yes, even sleep. This trip to La Union with my housemates and friends was scheduled a month prior to our actual trip. You can imagine my excitement when the day finally came.

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When asked about my favorite travel destination, the beach always tops the list. The idea of a man-made resort (aka swimming pool) has never really appealed to me since childhood. When my relatives would decide upon spending our family reunions in pools, I would daydream about spending my days in the beach instead. I just don’t get it. Who doesn’t like seeing the sea and the great blue sky? I think they’re the most wonderful things on earth, I will never trade the beach for any other travel destination.

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Oh to travel and see the rest of the world! It has always been my dream but it was only in 2011 that I got around to doing it. That year was when Chad and I became a couple. After being friends for more than a decade, fate finally nodded in our direction and permitted us to be together. (Wow, that sounded so cheesy but I can’t help but be all mushy when I think about our history together haha!) I didn’t expect that this guy who I loved since I was 13 is the same person who would eventually help me begin fulfilling some of my dreams. I learned to be more spontaneous because of him. During our first two weeks as a couple we embarked on our first trip to Zambales without much planning. It was scary for me because before, I avoid uncertain situations. I always had to know what’s coming so I can prepare. That attitude of mine often snuffed the fun out of things, it became a bit tiresome. Things changed when Chad came into my life. After Zambales, we visited a number of surfing spots in Luzon such as Daet, La Union, Baler, and Ilocos.

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He taught me how to ride a surf board and skim board. I got some bruises in return, but the pain was no match for all the amazing stuff I experienced. And then I realized, we cannot learn if we don’t unlearn a few things. My fear of the unknown, that sense of wanting to be in control all the time has always prevented me from experiencing wonderful things. So I’m extremely grateful for the people who’ve encouraged me to just relax and go with the flow. It’s kinda surprising how I, Chad, and my friends have developed similar temperaments, especially when it comes to traveling. I am still fighting the urge to plan everything, but I think I’m getting there.

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Terranova swimsuit | Sunnies by Charlie sunglasses
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Sometimes I wonder why we castigate people so much for changing. For me, change is fine as long as it makes you a better person. I would rather be different, in a positive way, than get stuck to the same immature, self-destructive person that I was. Coming to Manila in 2010 made me discover things about myself, career, and life in general. Since I’m far away from my family, I needed to develop a thick skin but at the same time be more open to my loved ones. I used to keep all my problems to myself when I was still in Naga, which only worsened every situation.

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Decided to ditch makeup, so here’s my bare face. πŸ™‚

And then one day four years ago, after a horrible breakup, I decided I will be better. Change takes a lot of courage and determination. We sometimes get too comfortable with the person that we are now, but I’ve learned that if I want to make my life worthwhile I have to improve myself. That attitude has helped me and my loved ones in so many ways, and that’s enough reason for me to keep on developing as person. What other people say about me is irrelevant.

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So go live your life to what you think is best. If you’re not stepping on anyone while on your journey to a better you, then by all means continue. πŸ™‚

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  • phyaboo

    Make the change for your own good, for you, and not for others. I like the point of this post. I initially thought it was just about La Union surfing, but that was a nice pep talk.

  • Rochkirstin Santos

    I’m not a beach person but I do love traveling islands in the Philippines. There are so many more places we as a family have yet to explore!

  • papaleng

    Your wish of travelling around the world is granted.. Me too, I prefer beaches than pools. You can enjoy nature kasi more. Pretty good beach to visit specially if you are there walikng along the shore. Just kidding lang po.

  • Shiela Aballa

    I can relate most in your first sentence. Gah! Hirap pagsabayin lahat. Hahaha! Hope I can be flexible like you. Great photos, by the way. πŸ™‚

  • Sef T.

    the sunnies + swimsuit + beach + the summer feeling. All of them went well together.

  • The real message of the post isn’t just about La Union. I absolutely believe people particularly women would be able to relate to it big time.

  • You’re a brave lady- keep it up. Enjoy life and brace yourself for more good things to come. Stay positive. Continue inspiring others. Love the pics by the way:)

  • First of all, you are really pretty even without make up. It’s nice to hear the story and how you’ve embraced change. Difficulties have its way in making us a better person we get molded to who we become. The faster we adopt the better we get. I love your positive attitude.

  • Pal Raine

    Honestly, I love your swimwear. For me, it is so Simple but looks sophisticated. Yes, I agree that we need to take a break, good vibes and stay relax as always.

  • You are so pretty. I wish i can go to island too.

  • Loudthinkin

    Agree with all that you said.. when your motto becomes improving yourself and making your life worthwhile a lot of things sort out! Love your photos!

  • Hannah GeeGee ???

    It looks like a beautiful place, your adventures sound amazing. Keep enjoying them xx

  • The beach is the perfect place to find your inner-self and at the same time, enjoy the rushing of waves and cool-fresh air.

  • I totally agree. There’s nothing wrong with changes as long as it makes you a better person. And I also love the beach! I’m a beach babe every since especially that I grew up in almost an island. I miss the beach too πŸ™ Can’t wait for summer!

    PS: Love your swimwear. πŸ™‚

  • Tiffany Yong

    My breakup had a tremendous effect on me too. I learnt makeup and took up many courses to occupy my time and boost my self confidence! I learnt how to love myself more and not degrade and change myself for that assh*le!

  • Sim @ Sim’s Life

    As much as I dislike the sea, beach holidays are my all time favourite holidays. It is so easy to escape from everything and have me time, staring out into the distance – you rock the beach babe look! Simone x

  • Raymond Vasquez

    “change is fine as long as it makes you a better person”

    True! I have always been a lover of change. I endeavor to be a better me today, than I am yesterday.

    Such daring posts though. πŸ™‚ Haha, I’m quite of a conservative kuya (big bro), so I don’t usually allow my younger siblings or even ate (older sis) pose like this on cam. But you look so comfortable on camera, so if your my sis, I might have given in still.

    I am also from an Island, so it’s quite refreshing to see people enjoying some islands… πŸ™‚ Enjoy life! Stay positive…

  • When you are open to change, you always get better. You keep finding ways to improve yourself.

  • You sure look like you’re enjoying having sand beneath your toes :p I do agree that changing for the better is a good thing !

  • Khushboo Motihar

    You are looking gorgeous and the beach looks so good πŸ™‚

  • dmhyf

    I’m not really a beach person. But you look so good and confident in your swimwear. – Fred

  • You are a beautiful person inside and out and ignore the naysayers. Change helps us grow and that is what matters. I’ll add this to my Monday Motivation Series

  • I’m a beach lover too Daphne. Back when I was working in Manila, all I can think about is when will be my next beach vacation?

    Change is necessary to move on in life and to improve oneself. Glad to know you embrace it. Ten years from now when you look back at your old self, you wound want to see how much you’ve changed for the better.

  • Manu Kalia

    I totally agree, Beach is where you release all that stress and reward yourself. Very inspiring

  • ellie

    you are so beautiful Daphne! I love going to the beach too! It relaxes me so much. Love the swimsuit!

  • nicoleta buru

    Absolutely fabulous,

    Kisses,

    Nicole

    http://www.nicoleta.me

  • badudets

    I love your swimsuit. I hope it’s still available in Terranova. πŸ™‚

  • You look so pretty and fab even without make-up.

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