At Peace

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When my father passed away due to illness ten years ago, I thought life had no meaning anymore. Losing the strongest man you know at a very delicate age is devastating. I had no male figure to look up to, except my brother who was only a teenager as well; I had no dad to ask for advice during the most difficult times. I grieved for a year, and eventually realized that I had to continue living. And I did.

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My life became more funereal afterwards to the point that I became immune to all frustrations, which led to poor decisions. I experienced quite a series of misfortunes that I thought bad luck was my last name.

But someone told me:

“One of the most self-destructive tendencies we have as humans is not allowing ourselves to be happy. This is because there is another voice in our head, the adversarial force that rushes in the moment we achieve any sense of true joy, and whispers in our thoughts all the reasons why we need to be afraid, upset, or stressed.

Our job is to consciously choose a sense of inner peace over that voice of negativity.

A life of happiness lies in your own hands, and more importantly in your own mind. It’s just waiting for you to choose it.”

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Sometimes we have to confront our fears and pain to see some light, and when I did that, everything turned nicer. I became more wise and more at peace with myself and the world. I accepted that it’s possible for me to be happy.

And you will be too, dear one. Whatever is holding you down right now will not be there forever. It will loosen its grip sooner or later, but always remember to stay strong so it won’t drag you down with it. Life is too wonderful to waste. πŸ™‚

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Studded top from F-STOP | Skater skirt from SUBCULT | Forever 21 booties | ULINX magnetic jewelry

I wore this look during the Chicken Charlie press launch. Chicken Charlie is a proudly Pinoy chicken restaurant which will celebrate its 3rd anniversary tomorrow! I’ll be posting the photos really soon and will be announcing a cool treat for you guys, so watch out! πŸ˜€

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  • helena

    congratulations! nice post. stay safe online! πŸ™‚

    • Hi, Helen! It’s good to hear from you! I haven’t seen you on Facebook? o.O

      • helena

        long story but all my social media accounts are out. btw, i have a coffee table project next month. πŸ™‚ wala pa kaming photographer. πŸ™‚ email me sa email add ko rito, baka puwede kay Chad if we can afford his TF. haha. πŸ™‚

      • Oh okay. Will email you in a bit. πŸ™‚

  • jamielouborile

    Lovely post as always!

    x, Jamie

    http://jamielouborile.blogspot.com/

    • Thanks, Jamie! πŸ™‚

  • Fritz Valle

    Inspiring! Thanks for writing. Very relatable πŸ˜€

    Fritz Valle
    http://www.fritzvalle.com

    • Thank you! I like giving people hope. πŸ™‚

  • <3 the post ate daf! lovely outfit as well ^_^ πŸ™‚

    http://pamreazon.blogspot.com/

    • Thanks, Pam! πŸ™‚

  • Margaret Cruzemark

    Such an elegant lady, such a great outfit!! I love it!!!
    Best Regards
    Miss Margaret Cruzemark
    http://margaretcruzemark.blogspot.com/

    • Aw thank you so much for that complement, Margaret! πŸ™‚

  • nice outfit daphne!! like the basic color combination!

    • Thanks, Andrew! πŸ™‚

  • Janice Lunes

    Where shall I start…

    Your heels are AMAZING
    Your skirt is COOL
    Your shirt I WANT πŸ™‚

    Love this look girl πŸ˜‰

    Kisses !

    • Aw thanks, Janice! Sounds like you made a poem! πŸ˜€

  • Oh I didn’t know Germany has cherry blossoms! That’s cool! πŸ™‚

  • Madara Lieciniece

    Love those polka dots! And totally adore your shoes! Wonderful! πŸ™‚

    callmemaddie.blogspot.com

    • Thanks, Maddie! Well they’re Forever 21’s πŸ™‚

  • Michelle Verpuggi

    Wow love the skirt babe! I follow you back thankyou so speak you soon Kiss girl

    • Thanks, Michelle! Definitely πŸ™‚

  • What a beautiful post, though I’m sorry to learn you lost your father at such a young age. I can’t imagine what that must have been like for you but thank you for sharing.

    SDMxx
    http://www.daringcoco.com

    • It was terrible but I got through it with the help of my family and friends. Thanks, Sonia! πŸ™‚

  • Anmari

    I always love the read every word of your post, i know i will learn something from it. everyone have their own struggle. i love this phrase “A life of happiness lies in your own hands, and more importantly in your own mind. It’s just waiting for you to choose it.”
    because it so true, we can never be happy if we dont embrace happiness and keep dwelling in sadness.
    cool outfit girl! love the studs! love the rock-chick look

    http://anmari-ish.blogspot.com

    • I know right. I used to be so pessimistic in life and I used to always anticipate bad things, it was terrible. But I’m learning how to be more positive and it feels great. Thanks, Anmari! πŸ™‚

  • aniacytrynka

    you look so pretty!!! amazing combination of prints πŸ™‚
    http://anna-and-klaudia.blogspot.com/

    • Aw, thanks, Ania! πŸ™‚

  • I will! Thank you so much πŸ™‚

  • You always look so nice.. and write with such beautiful insight!

    http://sisasaid.blogspot.com

    • Thanks, Isabel! Glad you find my posts insightful. πŸ™‚

  • ROXTHEFOX

    I love the way you write and to top it off, you are so adorable. Love this ensemble!

    http://WWW.ROXTHEFOX.COM

    • Aw, thank you Rox! <3

  • caroline

    I love your shoes!!! and the neckless too

    http://carolinesfashiondiary.blogspot.fr/

    • Thanks, Caroline! πŸ™‚

  • Got it from Subcult. Nice no? πŸ™‚

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